In Gretchen Rubin’s book, Happier at Home, she discusses a concept called “Be Gretchen.” She has learned to be intentional with her time, writing out a list of activities, or values that contribute the the bin got self. Essentially she states let my time reflects my values. “…the things I do every day take on a certain beauty and provide a kind of invisible architecture to my life.”
Autoimmune Paleo warrior Jessica Flanigan corroborates this on her blog with “what you believe about your life is the nexus point for stress you hold in your body and health.”
Sometime in about January, I began thinking a lot about these concepts, about who “cory ‘is and wants to be in the future. What do I want my next 10 years to be filled with? As my 30th birthday drew nearer, I experienced much anxiety . Until I read this and it changed my perspective dramatically. I felt like I could take the power back in my life and move forward with passion again.
“If you want to actually experience something meaningful, if you want to show your gratitude for miraculously existing as a living, breathing, thinking, conscious being made up of starstuff, then you must start living mindfully.
You must burn the rule book and create your own correct way of experiencing your life. You must make intentional decisions about how to live a life that you are responsible for creating. And as soon as you’re awake, you need to start.”Kali Hawlk
Be Cory (a 30 for 30 list) that was born out of my reflections. I hope it is an ever-changing list, but for now, I have a place to start.
1. Smile at strangers and compliment friends freely
2. Dance without abandon
3. Simplicity is best.
4. Outer order contributes to inner calm (cleanness and no clutter)
5. investing in food is investing in my future.
6. Sharing food is a way I connect with people and show the real me
7. Green is grounding
8. My bedroom is my oasis.
9. Accept myself and expect more of myself.
10. I love dressing up
11. I have a low tolerance for stuff…but what I do have I connect with and I feel like its an extension of myself.
12. If I want my life to be a certain way, I just be that way myself
13. When the student is ready the teacher will appear
14. Actively taking steps to conquer my fear(s) makes me happy. Its the process, the journey, not the end result that counts.
15. Music is my soul
16. Hug as much as possible
17. The little things matter to the big things
18. “It is possible to win the great prizes of life without running risks, and the greatest of all prizes are those connected with the home” Theodore Roosevelt
19. to keep going I must sometimes allow myself to stop
20. Sleep is always a good idea
21. Practicing gratitude is how I acknowledge that there’s enough and that I am enough
22. I respect myself enough to set up boundaries
23. Plans are worthless but planning is everything” Dwight Eisenhower
24. I love lists
25. Write everything down that matters (the agenda is ok)
26. Allow myself to feel and think and dream and question. Practice self compassion and live inside my story. Lean into the discomfort of hard emotions. (adapted from Brene Brown)
27. Act how I want to feel
28. “Authenticity: daily practice of letting go who i think I’m supposed to be and embracing who I am.” Brene Brown
29. “It isn’t enough to love; we must prove it” St. Therese
30. The only person I can change is myself
“Being rather than knowing requires showing up and letting ourselves be seen.” Brene Brown