“Remember today, for it is the beginning. Today marks the start of a brave new future. ” This is the start of a recent favourite read of mine from Mark and Angel Hack Life’s 30 Things to Start Doing For Yourself .
I am a self-professed Type A personality. And because of that I enjoy lists, organizing, planning, goals … anything basically so that I can control and track what is happening . (now I know there is lots of negative to this too, but for this blog, I am embracing one of my traits.) I am drawn to checklist type articles or writings that help give me a roadmap. Without some sort of direction, it is so easy for me to become overwhelmed and feel “lost”, especially, if I am reviewing my past and circumstances out of my control. No matter where decisions have led me, or what life throws my way, I always have the choice of my attitudes, behaviours and what I do with my emotions. Instead of leaning away from life and the uncomfortableness, I can lean into it and embrace what I can do.
- be honest about who I am. Its easy to admit the parts I like about myself, but the yucky parts? If I don’t acknowledge to myself what they are, maybe they will go away? right??? wrong. Embracing all the parts of me, bringing them to the surface, only, then can I enjoy being fully me and can I then actually maybe change me.
- show up in the here and now Over the last year, it has been a personal mission of mine to grow this attribute. My type A personality is always looking into the future, always looking to the next goal, deadline….but never fully enjoying the time I have now. The people, the moments the sights and sounds. I have to manually check myself sometimes, but being able to be fully present, fully me when I go for coffee with a friend who is struggling, or when I am out shopping for groceries at the farmers market, makes life a little more enjoyable. Wait, a lot more enjoyable.
- be gracious to yourself If I am being honest with you, this is the one I have struggled with the most personally. My planning and critical thinking is the worse on myself. Negative self talk is not productive at all. One habit I have developed that has helped tremendously is posting positive quotes and affirmations throughout my house, on my mirrors, fridge and in my agenda. If I can be grateful for what my body, my mind and my soul can do, then I can actually complete the other two. I can fully be who I am and fully show up in this world.